Elaine Blidgeon


The Obvious Choice System

From overlooked to the obvious choice
A practical roadmap to reposition how you’re seen and unlock better opportunities.

The Obvious Choice System gives you the roadmap I wish I’d had when I kept being passed over – something that shows you what’s really going on, names the patterns quietly holding you back, gives you options, protects your emotional state and proves this is a skills gap you can close, not a battle you can never win.

Now let me show you what The Obvious Choice System actually is and how it works in practice.

What Is The Obvious Choice System?

The Obvious Choice System is more than just a workshop – it’s a focused workplace repositioning programme that shows you how you’re currently seen at work and what needs to shift so you become the obvious choice when opportunities and decisions come up.

In your very first session, you’ll get practical, field‑tested tools to diagnose your current position, map who really holds influence around you and see exactly where you’re being quietly overlooked, sidelined or capped.

By the end of the programme, you won’t just have a vague sense that “something is off” – you’ll have a clear strategic plan to change how you’re positioned, where you show up and what you focus on, so your value is recognised without turning into someone you’re not.

This isn’t theory or guesswork; it’s the same structured approach I’ve used and refined over years of helping mid‑career professionals understand people, power and politics at work – a practical system for those who are done hoping hard work will be noticed and want a deliberate way to become harder to overlook.

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Your Instructor: Elaine Blidgeon

When I talk about being the obvious choice, I’m talking about the difference between being seen as a safe pair of hands and being seen as the person people naturally turn to when something important is on the line.

Elaine Blidgeon The Workplace Strategist

I’m Elaine Blidgeon, a Workplace Strategist and executive coach who specialises in people, power and politics at work – and how they shape your position, not just your performance. For over two decades I’ve studied human behaviour, trained in NLP and belief‑change methods, and coached professionals who were blindsided, sidelined or quietly capped despite doing good work.

The Real Game

If it involves decoding subtle power patterns, navigating difficult personalities, or repositioning yourself so you’re taken seriously without becoming someone you’re not, I help you see the real game around you and build a clear, practical plan to move from overlooked to the obvious choice.

The Moment Everything Flipped

For years, I believed “rising above it” proved I was better than the politics. I could feel when things were off, but I stayed out of it and hoped good work would speak for itself.

The turning point was realising it wasn’t a character test – it was a positioning problem. I started asking, “How do I become the obvious choice without selling my soul?” and used my background in human behaviour and strategy to answer it.

Once I understood how power and politics actually worked, I deliberately upgraded my skills: I learnt how to get backing from people who could move things, make my contribution visible, and protect my position without becoming someone I didn’t recognise.

The result was quiet but radical: my input was listened to, my standing improved, and opportunities finally started to land where I was constantly being passed over. I wasn’t a suck‑up, but I also wasn’t the easy target anymore. That before‑and‑after is the journey The Obvious Choice System is designed to help you make on purpose, instead of piecing it together over years of bruises.

The Obvious Choice System

A direct path to skills that usually take years (and a few career bruises) to develop

Before I created The Obvious Choice System, I was the classic capable professional: delivering, over‑delivering – and still finding myself blocked, sidelined or quietly capped in workplaces where the real decisions were happening somewhere else.

I spent years studying psychology, NLP, belief‑change work and “good communication” – but in real organisations, I kept hitting the same wall: none of it properly accounted for the informal power, human nature and politics that actually shaped who was seen as the obvious choice and who stayed in the background.

People and power are complex, and the neat models in books didn’t always hold up in rooms where egos, history and hidden agendas were in play. So I threw myself into the real thing – tracking hundreds of live situations from my own roles, from clients and from real‑world stories, mapping the patterns and testing what actually shifted how people were positioned over time

The Obvious Choice System is the result: a distilled, field‑tested way to see the positioning patterns most professionals only recognise in hindsight – and to build the strategic skills to change how you’re seen while things are happening, instead of after another opportunity has quietly passed you by.

What’s inside The Obvious Choice System

Inside The Obvious Choice System, you get:

  • Live positioning clinics – small‑group calls where we dissect real workplace situations (from you, anonymised client stories and curated examples) to see how you’re currently positioned, who is treated as the “obvious choice”, and what’s really driving those decisions
  • Implementation / strategy calls – focused 1‑to‑1 sessions to apply the tools to your role and environment, so you walk away with specific positioning shifts and next steps, not just insight.
  • The Obvious Choice roadmap – your private set of worksheets and prompts that walk you through: position diagnosis, pattern and power mapping, influence and behaviour shifts, value positioning and your 30–60 day strategic positioning plan.
  • Quick‑use prompts and questions – simple checks you can run before key meetings, conversations and decisions to make sure you’re showing up where it counts and not accidentally confirming an old, limiting role.
  • Ongoing refinements – updated examples, prompts and patterns as workplaces (and your roles) evolve, so your positioning toolkit grows with your career.

The Obvious Choice System runs in limited‑intake cohorts so there’s space for both small‑group work and individual focus; if you want first access when doors open, your next step is to join the interest list.

The Obvious Choice System

The Old Way

The “merit‑only” rule book most decent people were handed

  • Treat tricky situations as “just personalities” or “team drama”, not patterns that are quietly shaping your future.
  • Rely on gut feeling and venting, not a clear way to read what’s happening.
  • Keep your head down and hope good work speaks for itself.
  • Say yes to “be honest with me” or “can I pick your brain?” without checking the political or career risk.
  • Only realise it was politics or positioning after the damage is done (reputation, opportunities, relationships).
  • Result: high stress, feeling blindsided, stuck or quietly capped, wondering why others keep getting picked.

The New Way

The positioning rule book The Obvious Choice System gives you

  • Use simple checks to spot when something is about positioning and power, not “just” drama..
  • Treat office politics as a learnable skill set, not a dirty word you have to avoid.
  • Run quick safety questions before key conversations and decisions, so you protect your position instead of handing away leverage by accident.
  • Have language for the most common plays and patterns, so you can see what people are using on you – and choose cleaner, safer responses.
  • See patterns early enough to adjust how and where you show up, so your value is harder to ignore.
  • Result: lower stress, fewer nasty surprises, more quiet leverage and career options.

If you’re good at your job, can feel that something in the dynamics is off, and have never been given a clear way to see or handle this side of work, The Obvious Choice System is built for you.

What Is The Obvious Choice Toolkit?

The Obvious Choice toolkit is your private positioning and political‑skill resource – a practical guide to the people, power and patterns that quietly decide who gets backed, included and chosen at work, even if you don’t like the idea of “office politics”

Inside, you’ll learn to spot power plays and other positioning patterns early, using clear early‑warning prompts so you can see trouble before it lands on your desk. You’ll get a simple Reframe Method to mop up the emotional sting of being overlooked or played, and mapping tools that show you who really holds influence around you and where your own leverage is growing or leaking.

Instead of learning these lessons through years of painful trial and error, you have a living reference you can open before tricky conversations, new teams or big decisions, so you can protect your reputation, make smarter moves and stop being the easiest person to overlook..

Here’s What This Means for You…

Every project, promotion and “difficult situation” at work sits on one thing – how people, power and positioning are actually working around you, not just how good you are at your job.

In practice, that comes down to two skills most decent professionals were never taught: being able to spot informal power plays and patterns early, and understanding what really drives other people’s decisions, especially when they don’t say it out loud.

When you don’t have those skills, you default to the “merit‑only” rule book: stay reasonable, work hard, be loyal and hope someone notices. It feels fair – and it’s exactly how strong people end up stuck on the same band for years while others move into better‑paid, higher‑impact roles.

For women and other under‑represented groups, the cost is even clearer. UK and international studies show persistent gender pay gaps – often around 10–15% in like‑for‑like roles – driven not just by blatant discrimination but by who gets the visible projects, sponsorship and decision‑maker time. Over a career, that compounds into tens of thousands in lost earnings.

Those tiny “micro‑choices” you talk about – staying quiet in key meetings, letting others present work you drove, avoiding uncomfortable conversations with decision‑makers – don’t just affect how respected you feel; they quietly decide whose salary moves and whose doesn’t.

That’s why I built The Obvious Choice System: to give you a practical, field‑tested way to:

✅  See the patterns that are quietly keeping you invisible or “not quite ready”.
✅ Understand how those patterns tie directly into missed opportunities and long‑term earning power.
✅ Change how you’re positioned so you’re seen, backed and chosen when decisions and opportunities actually happen – without turning into someone you’re not.

Why positioning matters

Most decent people are taught a merit‑only rule book: work hard, be reasonable, and trust that someone will notice. Positioning is the missing skill that explains why you’re still invisible – and what to change so you’re taken seriously when it counts.

The Obvious Choice System: from invisible to obvious choice

Step 1 — Current Position

Problem: “I don’t actually know how I’m seen here.”
You’re working hard but guessing at your real status – you feel overlooked, but you can’t see the exact shape of it.

What we do: We map how you’re currently seen: the labels that have stuck, how people describe and treat you, and where you sit in the informal pecking order.

Tangible shift – you’ll be able to:

Stop taking every slight personally and start seeing a pattern you can actually work with.

Put clear language to your current position instead of just “I feel invisible”.

See the specific ways you’re being type‑cast (fixer, safe pair of hands, support act, “not management material”).

Step 2 — Position Formation

Problem: “I don’t know why this keeps happening to me.”
You keep being passed over and told “it’s not the right time”, but you’re missing the story that’s built up around you.

What we do: We trace how that position was created and reinforced – your behavioural patterns (waiting, holding back, over‑delivering quietly), how others have interpreted them, and how past narratives have been handed down.

Tangible shift – you’ll be able to:

Stop blaming your personality and start spotting specific habits you can tweak.

See the cause‑and‑effect between what you’ve been doing and how you’ve been labelled.

Answer “Why was I not picked?” with something more useful than “maybe I’m just not good enough”.

Step 3 — Environment & Power Dynamics

Problem: “Decisions feel random and opaque – I don’t know how things really work here.”
Promotions, stretch projects and invitations into the room seem to come from nowhere, and you’re always told after the fact.

What we do: We map how decisions actually get made around you: who really has influence, what’s rewarded vs ignored, how others secure buy‑in and opportunities, and where informal power plays are shaping things.

Tangible shift – you’ll be able to:

Stop playing the game on “merit‑only” rules when everyone else is using positioning as well.

Read the power map of your team or organisation instead of assuming job titles tell you everything.

Spot when you’re being quietly downgraded, excluded or used as cover.

Step 4 — Value Repositioning

Problem: “I can’t see my real value in a way that lands here.”
You know you’re capable, but you struggle to explain your value beyond “I work hard and I help”. That keeps you stuck in the same chair.

What we do: We identify where your real value sits in this environment, match it to what actually gets rewarded, and find the specific gaps where you can become genuinely useful and hard to ignore.

Tangible shift – you’ll be able to:

Choose where to invest your energy so it builds your position, not just your to‑do list.

Point to concrete strengths and contributions that matter in your organisation’s language.

Articulate “this is what I’m the obvious choice for” instead of “I’ll do anything”.

Step 5 — Strategic Action Plan

Problem: “Even when I have insight, I don’t know what to do differently.”
You’ve had light‑bulb moments before, but they didn’t translate into visible change, so nothing shifted.

What we do: We turn insight into a clear 30–60 day positioning plan: where to show up, what to start and stop doing, how to create proof of value, and how to track whether your position is actually changing.

Tangible shift – you’ll be able to:

See evidence that you’re becoming the obvious choice: being consulted earlier, included in decisions, considered for better opportunities.

Take specific actions each week that change how you’re seen (not just how much you do).

Make and test small behavioural shifts in real situations, instead of trying to “be a different person”.

Who The Obvious Choice System Is For (And Not For)

The Obvious Choice System is for you if:

  • You do good work but still find yourself overlooked, over‑used or quietly sidelined when opportunities come up
  • You can feel politics and positioning in promotions, projects or decisions, but can’t quite see the pattern or explain it.
  • You hate the idea of “playing games”, yet you’re tired of being the safe pair of hands who never seems to be the obvious choice
  • You replay conversations and meetings for days, wondering what you missed or how you could have handled it differently.
  • You want more influence, options and better‑quality opportunities at work, without becoming manipulative or turning into someone you don’t recognise.

The Obvious Choice System is not for you if:

  • You’re looking for tricks to out‑manipulate other people or “win at any cost”.
  • You want a guaranteed promotion or pay rise regardless of performance or context.
  • You’re unwilling to reflect on your own patterns, experiment with new behaviours or take responsibility for your side of the dynamic

This is a space for decent, ambitious professionals who want to handle people, power and positioning more intelligently – with their integrity intact.

Your Next Step: Obvious Choice Positioning Call

This isn’t a free coaching session. It’s a focused diagnostic conversation to see whether shifting your positioning is the real lever – and whether The Obvious Choice System is the right place to do that work.

On an Obvious Choice Positioning Call, we will:

  • Surface how you’re currently positioned and where you’re being quietly overlooked or capped.
  • Clarify the main pattern that keeps repeating (so we’re not guessing at the problem)
  • Decide together whether working through The Obvious Choice System is the right next step for you.

You won’t leave with a full action plan – that’s what the programme is for. You will leave knowing whether this is the real issue and whether I’m the right person to help you solve it.

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    Every Question [With Answers]  I’ve Ever Been Asked About Office Politics


    Q1. Will learning office politics force me to be fake or two‑faced just to get ahead?

    Learning office politics here isn’t about acting fake; it’s about upgrading your interpersonal skills so you can handle real people, real agendas and real pressure without losing yourself. It gives you more honest options in tricky situations, not more masks to wear.

    Q2. If I learn office politics, won’t I end up just like the people I dislike?

    The people you dislike are often using political skill without conscience; you’re learning political skill with conscience. The same awareness that lets them manipulate can, in your hands, protect your reputation, your boundaries and the people you care about.

    Q3. Shouldn’t good work be enough without having to ‘play politics’?

    In a fair world, good work would be enough; in real organisations, good work is the entry ticket, not the whole game. Political fluency simply makes sure your good work is seen, valued and protected, instead of quietly taken for granted or used against you.

    Q4. If I’m meant to get promoted, won’t it just happen naturally?

    Promotions don’t happen “naturally”; they happen through people – their perceptions, relationships and decisions. Political skills help you understand how those decisions are really made, so you can line your efforts up with reality instead of crossing your fingers and hoping.

    Q5. Isn’t office politics just drama I’m better off staying out of?

    What looks like “just drama” on the surface is often informal power plays shaping who gets work, support or blame. Staying out of the noise is healthy; staying blind to the patterns is expensive. The Black Book teaches you to tell the difference.

    Q6. I tried getting involved in office politics once and got burned – why would this be different?

    Most people “get involved” in politics by accident, without language, tools or boundaries. This is the opposite: a structured way to name the plays, run quick safety checks and choose cleaner moves, so you keep your integrity and reduce the risk of being burned again.

    Q7. Isn’t office politics really for loud, extroverted people – and what if that’s not me?

    Loud isn’t the same as politically skilled. Some of the most effective players are quiet, observant and thoughtful – they read the room and say less, but say it better. Political fluency is about awareness and timing, not volume or personality type.

    Q8. I’m a decent person and I don’t ‘play games’ – is this really for someone like me?

    This is especially for people like you. The problem isn’t that you “don’t play games”; it’s that other people do, and you’re the one who pays for it. Political fluency gives decent people a fair chance in systems that already reward those who understand power.

    Q9. Will I have to change who I am just to fit in if I learn this?

    You stay who you are; what changes is how you handle other people. This is about upgrading your communication and boundary skills in a political environment, not swapping out your values. You’re learning more ways to be you effectively, not becoming someone else.

    Q10. What if I’m bad at reading people and always miss the signals – can I still learn this?

    That’s exactly who the Black Book is built for. If you already caught every signal, you wouldn’t need it. The patterns, questions and examples are there to give you a structure, so you don’t have to rely on instinct alone.

    Q11. I’m too honest – can I really do all that ‘strategic’ stuff without feeling wrong?

    Strategy isn’t the opposite of honesty; it’s deciding when and how to be honest in a way that doesn’t damage you. You’re not learning to lie – you’re learning to tell the truth in a way that protects your reputation and your relationships instead of sacrificing them.

    Q12. If I set boundaries or say no, won’t I look difficult or disloyal?

    Looking endlessly available is what quietly erodes trust and respect. Political skill helps you set boundaries in a way that signals maturity and reliability: “I care about the work and the relationship – and I also protect what lets me do a good job.”

    Q13. If I learn office politics skills, won’t I just start overthinking everything?”

    At first you notice more, like when you learn to drive and think about every mirror. Then it becomes second nature. The aim is less mental spin, not more – a few clear questions you can run quickly, so you stop replaying conversations at 3 a.m.

    Q14. I’ve survived this long without political skills – do I really need them now?

    You’ve survived without them; the question at what cost?: missed promotions, unfair workloads, being the safe pair of hands who never quite moves. Political skills are about shifting from “surviving despite the system” to “making the system work less against you.”

    Q15. Doesn’t a ‘Power Plays Black Book’ sound a bit scheming – I don’t want to be sneaky.

    The Black Book isn’t a manual for scheming; it’s a reference guide to patterns that are already being used around you. You’re not learning how to manipulate people – you’re learning how to recognise the moves, reduce your risk, and choose cleaner responses.

    Q16. Isn’t keeping a Black Book of power plays a bit paranoid?

    Paranoia is assuming bad intent everywhere; the Black Book is about recognising specific situations where risk is higher, so you can stay calm and clear‑headed. It lets you be less jumpy and more precise: “This is a genuine power play” vs “this is just someone having a bad day.”

    Q17. Will this turn me into the kind of person who analyses everyone all the time?

    The aim isn’t to analyse everyone; it’s to recognise a handful of key patterns quickly and then get on with your day. Once you’ve seen certain plays a few times, they become obvious – like knowing a traffic sign – so you actually spend less time second‑guessing people, not more.

    Q18. Isn’t this just common sense – do I really need a whole Black Book for it?

    If it were common sense, fewer smart people would be blindsided by it. The Black Book turns “I had a bad feeling about that meeting” into specific patterns with names and options, so you can learn from one experience instead of repeating the same lesson three jobs in a row.

    Q19. Won’t knowing all these power plays make me more anxious, not less?

    Anxiety thrives on vagueness – that sense that “something is off” but you can’t say what. Naming the play and having a few clear responses actually shrinks the anxiety, because you move from “I don’t know what’s happening” to “I know this pattern and I know my next safe step.”

    Q20. What if my workplace isn’t that political – does any of this even apply to me?

    A quieter workplace just means the volume is turned down, not that human nature disappears. The skills still help you read people more accurately, spot early warning signs and make better decisions about where you invest your time, trust and effort.

    Q21. Will learning and using the Black Book be a lot of work on top of my actual job?

    The heavy lifting has already been done in creating the patterns and questions. Your “work” is noticing one or two familiar plays, trying one small action, and letting that save you hours of overthinking, resentment or damage control later.

    Q22. What if I don’t have anyone safe to practise this with and just mess it up?

    That’s exactly why the Lab exists – so you can practise on examples and patterns before you’re under pressure in your own workplace. You build the skill in low‑stakes conversations first, so when it really matters you’re not improvising from scratch.

    Q23. Even if I learn this, won’t they still just favour their favourites?

    Favourites don’t disappear – but how you’re seen and where you sit in the unofficial “favourites ladder” is highly influenced by political skill. You can’t erase bias, yet you can stop accidentally making yourself the safest person to overlook and start becoming much harder to ignore or sideline.

    Q24. If the system is rigged, will learning political skills actually change anything?

    Political skill doesn’t magically un‑rig a system; it changes how exposed you are inside it and how many real options you have. You move from “stuck in a bad game with no map” to “clear‑eyed about the game, able to protect yourself and decide when to stay, when to push and when to leave on your own terms.”

    Q25. If I can’t control my boss or senior leadership, what’s the point of learning this?

    You’re right that you can’t control them – political fluency is about controlling your position in relation to them. You learn who actually moves what, how to avoid unnecessary cross‑fire, and how to build support where it counts, so you’re less at the mercy of one difficult person.

    Q26. If I push back on power plays, won’t I just make enemies?

    Charging straight at a power play often creates enemies; naming it privately and responding strategically protects you. The Black Book is about finding the responses that lower your risk – redirecting, slowing things down, setting quiet boundaries – instead of dramatic showdowns that backfire.

    Q27. Won’t learning all this just make me more cynical?

    Cynicism comes from being hurt and confused, then deciding “that’s just how it is”. Political skill is the opposite: you see the pattern, understand why it happens, and get tools to protect yourself. That tends to produce clarity and relief more than bitterness, because you finally have levers you can use.

    Q28. I’m already exhausted – do I really have the energy for another ‘skill’?

    This “skill” is designed to give you energy back by reducing the drains: unfair workloads, surprise politics, sleepless post‑mortems of conversations. A handful of better moves in the right places can save you far more time and emotional labour than it costs to learn them.

    Q29. Will this turn me into a constant tactician instead of just being able to do my job?

    The goal isn’t to turn you into a full‑time strategist; it’s to give you enough political fluency that you can get on with your job with fewer shocks. A bit of clear thinking upfront – “what’s really happening here, and what’s a safe way to respond?” – means you spend less time firefighting afterwards, not more